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We're Not at Charm School Learning How to Be a Gentleman, We're Racing is the ninth episode of The Amazing Race 4.


Exhaustion and infighting contribute to one team becoming lost in Malaysia, and the two last-placed teams dash to the finish just seconds apart to avoid being eliminated.[2]


Route Markers[]

The order of departure from Manukan Island are as follows:

  1. Jon & Al (2:05 am)
  2. Reichen & Chip (2:05 am)
  3. Millie & Chuck (2:19 am)
  4. David & Jeff (2:50 am)
  5. Kelly & Jon (3:36 am)

Teams must travel back to Kota Kinabalu. Once there, teams must then travel to the Poring Hot Springs in Ranau and cross a series of tree bridges to find their next clue.

Teams must take a marked car and drive themselves to Sandakan and find the Trushidup Palm Oil Plantation to look for their next clue.

The Fast Forward instructions were given to teams after receiving their clue at Poring Hot Springs. Teams must drive themselves to the Sepilok Orangutan Sanctuary and feed the orangutans. Once they have fed the orangutans four pieces of durian, they can claim the Fast Forward. Reichen & Chip won the Fast Forward.

Choice A: Chop
Teams must use local tools to knock down palm nut bunches with an envelope attached. For every one envelope with a clue inside, there are three that are empty.

Only Kelly & Jon chose this task.

Choice B: Haul
Teams must haul 25 palm nut bunches into a truck. Once the truck is fully loaded, it will drive away, revealing their next clue.

David & Jeff, Jon & Al, and Millie & Chuck chose this task.

Teams must drive themselves to Gomantong Caves in Kinabatangan and find their next clue.

"It's time for the 'ladder' part of the Race."

The team member assigned to perform this Roadblock must climb up a rattan ladder 50 feet inside of the cave. At the top, they would have to balance atop a shaky wooden platform to retrieve their next clue from inside of a basket, and could then climb back down.

The Roadblock performers per team are underlined:

Teams must drive themselves to Sepilok Nature Resort to check in. For coming in first, Reichen & Chip won a festive Latin American vacation courtesy of American Airlines.


     First Place •      Eliminated     Last placer on a Non-Elimination Leg or continue racing on a No-Rest Leg     Season winner •      Season 2nd place •      Season 3rd place • Used the Fast Forward
Reichen & Chip
 1st place 
Reichen & Chip
Jon & Al
 2nd place 
Jon & Al
Best Friends/Clowns
David & Jeff
 3rd place 
David & Jeff
Best Friends
Kelly & Jon
 4th place 
Kelly & Jon
Millie & Chuck
 5th place 
Millie & Chuck
Dating 12 Years/Virgins


  • This episode's title was said by Jon Corso in a confessional about an argument between them involving his often mean behavior.
  • With Millie & Chuck's elimination, Kelly Parks is the last female still racing.


The Amazing Race 4 Episodes

"Cheaters Never Win...And They Cheated!" · "It Doesn't Say Anything About First Come, First Served...And We're Bigger" · "I Wasn't Even Going to Touch You Until You Slammed My Head Backwards!" · "Check Your Tires Because...Oh God, You Never Know What'll Happen!" · "You Are Just Deliberately Trying to Make Us Lose!" · "I Could Have Never Been Prepared for What I'm Looking at Right Now" · "We're Going Down the Wrong Side of the Freeway...And the Lights Are Off!" · "The Princess Reminded Me of My Grandmother. She Was Very Old but Still Very, Very with It" · "We're Not at Charm School Learning How to Be a Gentleman, We're Racing" · "That's Me. That's My Face. Just Hit My Face. Hit My Face!" · "Such a Nice Pheromone Smell to You; Just Makes Me Want to Stay Close" · "He's a Couple of Ticks Away from Having a Heart Attack" · "It's Like Adam Building His First House!"